Thoughts with a Cuppa
My mother used to say that if you were feeling a little depressed just watch the SBS nightly news and you may feel that things are a little better compared to the rest of the world. My mother was right in many ways. Last week as I drove to School I was listening to the 7am news. It began with the news of a road death in Melbourne and then two shootings in the USA. It then talked about the fact that 50% of workers have experienced some kind of mental health issue due to workload and due dates.
Mental Illness is a name or title which describes many different conditions. Within the umbrella of this illness there are many different categories as well as levels that a person suffers mental illness.
What is good now is that people do not have to suffer alone in experiencing and dealing with mental illness. Our society has come a long way.
Does working in a Catholic School make it easier to deal with mental illness? Of course the answer is NO. But hopefully our Catholic values and ideals assist. In a Catholic School we use words such as Hope, Love, Respect and Journey to describe the Community we are part of. These words are at the heart of the Gospel message of Truth.
But does this make it easier to deal with mental illness? Again the answer is NO BUT hopefully within a Catholic School we openly acknowledge that some people in our Community suffer illnesses which are hard to understand fully. We acknowledge with no judgment.
In a Catholic School we say we are different to other Schools. The only reason we are different is that everything we do is underpinned by the Gospel message of Truth proclaimed by Jesus.
When Jesus sat at the well and accepted a drink of water from a Samaritan women he knew he was breaking the religious law of his time. But what he was in fact doing was listening to a person who was suffering. In listening Jesus welcomed this person in ways no one had welcomed her before.
May our Catholic Schools be truly welcoming to others and particularly minorities.
In thinking about this piece I came across a beautiful prayer by a mother whose son is experiencing mental illness. You might like to read this beautiful prayer and pray for all those in our Community who are suffering in ways we are unaware of.
Edward Dooley (Mission and Faith Leader)
A Mother's Prayer for Mental Illness
As I stumble from my bed this morning, help me to remember to be gentle and kind.
My child's mind is shredding into a million pieces. He lives in a constant state of atrocious fear. I can see it in his eyes. Give him peace.
Guide me as I hold him in my arms. Help me to know what to say. What to do. Fill my heart with healing love, understanding, and empathy.
Give me the strength of a thousand angels to hold back my tears. My heart is broken and a tidal wave of grief is overwhelming me with the need to cry. Give me the strength to bear it long enough to keep it from disturbing my child. Help me find someone I can safely bring it to.
Help me answer my family's questions with the same amount of compassion I would want for my self. Help me remember they are hurting too. This is an unwelcomed assault on an entire family. My heart is not the only heart that is broken. We all need time and each other to heal.
As my journey becomes more and more isolative and lonely, remind me that the lack of involvement on the part of family and friends is not always because of the stigma and the ignorance. For many, it is because they are hurting too. They have the privilege of turning to their own lives. This is my family's life now. I must deal with it whether I am hurting or not.
Send me your best physicians and healers. Give me presence of mind, as I walk through the exhaustion of my grief to not settle for just any one no matter how tiresome the journey becomes.
Help me adjust to the idea, that although it appears my son is gone, there will be no goodbye. And that he is still inside somewhere waiting for us to find him.
Infuse the creative part of my mind with solution oriented thinking. Give me hope. Even if it is just a glimmer of hope. A mother can go for miles on just one tiny glimmer. Let me see just a flicker of the sparkle of joy in his eyes.
Guide my hands, calm my mind, as I fill out the multitude of forms for services. Then help me do it again over and over.
Provide me with the knowledge. Lead me to the books I need to read, the organizations I need to connect with. As you work though the people in my life, help me to recognize those that are here to help. Help me trust the right ones. Shine a light upon the right path.
Give me the courage to speak my truth; to know my son's truth. And to speak for him when he is unable to do it for himself. Show me when to do for him what he is not capable of doing for himself. Help me to recognize the difference.
Help me to stand tall in the face of the stigma; to battle the discrimination with the mighty sword of a spiritual warrior. And to deflect the sting of blame and fault finding from the ignorant and the cruel.
Preserve my love for my family. Shield my marriage with the wisdom of the love that brought us together.
Protect him from homelessness, loneliness, victimization, poverty, hunger, hopelessness, relapse, drugs, alcohol, suicide, cruelty and obscurity.
Lead us to the miracles of better medications, better funding, better services, safe and plentiful housing, meaningful employment, communities who care, enlightenment. Help us to find some way to replace all the greed with humanitarian work and intrinsic reward again.
Most of all, give me the strength to deliver whatever I can to the work of unmasking the man-made ugliness of this disease and revealing the human and all of it's suffering beneath.
Finally, when it is my time to leave my son behind, send a thousand angels to take my place.

